RAPE ; WHAT’S GOD SAYING ?
First I want to salute the previous teachers ,they had done excellent justice to the theme as a whole , having a picture that God has something to say about the present times and situations ravaging the world at large …..
And as I said in out intro to this general teaching , it’s no news that 3yr old child to 80yrs old granny are being raped , it falls on both said either male or female and God is not and never silent about it !!!! …
So tonight , I’ll be dealing more on the other side of the Topic ; R.A.P.E …*YES YOU HAD THAT CAME OUT RIGHT*…
In this section I will be teaching on how to build and maintain a Good goal oriented relationship with different kind of people at different level or phase of life .
*Are you set for this .?*
So briefly ,I’ll be dealing with three phase
1; THE SINGLE
2; THE COURTING FELLAS AND BELLA’S
3;THE MARRIED COUPLE
OK Let dive into this quickly as we trust God to help us build the right and healthy relationship….“`
So I’ll be using expressly the acronyms R.A.P.E..,….
1; THE SINGLE BELLA’S AND BOOBY
WATCH YOUR R.A.P.E.
Let me give a brief description of what the single life of a Bella and a Bobby looks like and then relate it to the individual letters R.A.P.E……
LIFE IS lived in stages , with each stage being very unique and at the same time a training ground for the next stage of life .
To everything there is a season , and a time to every purpose under the heavens says the preacher in Ecclesiastes 3;1“`
For me singleness means to be separate, unique and whole . Some jump into the next stage too early, well I don’t have a problem with that If they are truly prepared for it….. I had seen folks who relate their story on how they felt unprepared before going into the next stage of life which is marriage…in conclusion on this note, if you are not ready don’t jump at or play games around anything related.
Summarily singleness is a beautiful stage and possess certain uniqness for ever wise single……. Listen YOU CAN NOT BE A YOUTH OR SINGLE TWICE ! HIT THE TAGET THIS ONCES BEFORE LEAVING THE STAGE“`
When one gets married there are some advantage of singleness that marriage removes from your life as a single person so to those who are in a hurry (Clamming that you can’t wait to see yourself on that wedding gown ) …just before you jump into it be sure you are ready……and by application and not saying that if its Time you should not proceed to the next stage of your life …. Please fire on…we want to eat rice…….
I believe I have being able to lay a foundation of what singleness looks like in a bit of what my knowledge is..and hence would like to push this realty to single in the house on the word R.A.P.E…
This will be based on how to maximize your input and Impact has a single..
Are you set
R- RELATIONSHIP AND REST ;
I believe what has being able to give me the maximum value I have today has being my ability to define what relationship should look like from my secondary school day ….. although I was a bit confused about believing God existed all the way those days but some common realistic principles got me growing up fast intellectually.
You know I LOVE STORIES, let me shear this real life story with you…
*A short life story*
This was my personal experience …
Was in class one when the issues of Dating got hold of the secondary school I attended in Lagos , all the same I was not a freak of such concept , I had away got stocked to scientific story and details that bust my imagination about exploring the science and technology world….. although it equally affected by ability to believe God existed in a way ….not to bore you ,I had a friend who also aspired to be a doctor , he had a girl then he was *Dating* and then it happened that this young Bella’s and Bobby had no real clue to what dating really means …. And so this guy came in to the class one morning with his Eyes red and his face towel wet … And what next , he was like that for 1week 2 day ( I kept counting actually lol… ) …I later realized that some of my friends then arrange a brake up for him so I could be able to freely get on a dating scheme with the girl involved…..you see why I was interested in his faces being red and his to handkerchief being consistently wet?
But Before my own finally responding to my friends I asked myself, what could be so serious between this two people that this guy became unstable in class for a week plus ?
The next I asked myself is so if this girl brake us with me ,I will be crying like this guy too….LOL .
I told my friends immediately, I am not interested , and the response was they had worked everything out and all I needed to is walk along after school hours and our dating period can be initiated , you see you don’t wake up love when its not time .,..otherwise it will throw you into a bed of permanent unrest
Thanks to mum who saw me on the first day of our discussion ( got home that day and while dropped my stuff’s mum stood by the door and said IFE I saw you with a lady today charting and and did not even know when I passed ,be careful ),and thanks. Toy muscular vibes then for not proposing yet …
So unthinkable my Mum passed and could not know because I was talking to a lady…. That was loud right lol ..
Morals; 1; My classmates lost his balance because he tried to wake up love at the wrong time he was doing the right thing at the wrong time and for sure will never be with the right the right perspective and ability when you do things at the wrong time …..
Morals 2 ; I lost connection with my environment because could not handle the surrounding expectations while relating with the opposite gender …
REST ;
see for you to have a mentally and bodily stable life you need to rest …
I call the first
1; mental rest ;
Don’t give yourself to anything that will not get you focused … Medically those that watch porn are sick… Says a doctor..it’s a kind of mental sickness that makes a person interested in watching others have sexual … You can’t be stable as a single or vassal if you do so ,even aside from the spiritual implications .spiritually you are vulnerable to the devil and demonic attacks and oppression, social you become zero percent balanced and unprofitable to the moral world ……
2; Physical rest ;
Working round the clock does not make you rich it only give you a monetary value for taking care of sickness…. Learn to rest …be a single person with senses of vision and mission … Not all outing you attend …for me I check my stress level through regular exercise , I know when am stressed and regardless of who you are and what you want , if it’s not urgent on the biases of an emergency ,I stay on my bed ,still , worshipping, , praying , listing to Hill song United… because my health is practically important ….
A- ATTITUDE AND ADAPTATION ;
Your attitude is everything in life .likewise your ability to adapt to realistic opportunity is key …so either single or married build a positive attitude and adaptive features to what is right and what will help you become a better person .,as a married person grow your family through positive inspired ideas , you don’t have to copy family XYZ to grow or build your family ,ask God since he is the author of the whole relationship ,
For the married remember its now two imperfect people coming together to make thing work so the both party must consistently tender stuffs on the table of agreement , guys , I have this secret for you ..SOME TIMES YOU LET HER WIN ……ladies I have got this secret for you , SOME TIMES YOU JUST ACT LIKE YOU LOVE THE VIBES HE PUSHING OUT …. Knowing that you are doing this to save your family …..
P- PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT AND PRODUCTIVITY
as a single don’t just sit and Think everything will just fall into place ,get productive
Listen have something doing, don’t just sound like one funny movie track I saw with a quote like YOU GO HOPELESS , YOU COME BACK HOPLESS… build yourself, even the bible says one shall chase a thousand , and two shall chase ten thousand , be sure you are chasing at least a thousand , so when the girl too come , she can know that the 21st century world does not accommodate house wife….. (lol)
E- Experience Rediscovery;
So some says experience is the best teacher and they are limited and have had several strokes before getting to their Apex ….
2; THE COURTING(dating) FELLAS ;
Its so Good that your impression is a true picture of your intentions .this two must not conflict!!! Remember my story line…..and learn from it …how,?you may ask .well see this .
1; Define properly what you call Dating and courtship
2;what’s your major reason for dating or courtship …
3; Do you mean business in the present relationship you are into ,be sure you will not end up like my old time classmate who got a troubled mind for nothing sake …
Let me point out what the courting fellas and bellas may want to consider during this important period ….
R- RELATE YOUR INTENTIONS AND PLAN PROPERLY ;
Guys listen to me , let this girls know you back to back , before you say I DO to each other , let her know where you are heading to , because she is meant to be your helper , if there is no vision of where you are heading to , it will end up in strive , and both of you will hate yourself after the honey moon …. Trust me , I will not reject your IV , and will even invite more people ,and when we are done eating the rice and chicken , we will be in our home and you will be in yours …so you better be prepared for what you are about to jump into…… so on both sides let the intentions be clear ……for proper planning and adaptability ….during the process
ADVOCATE FOR A GODLY CONCEPT ALL THROUGH THE PERIOD
I can’t over emphasis this, foundation is key in every step of the way , you don’t build a house without the right foundation and expect it to withstand the wind of time ,Listen closely , if you want to have a lasting and happy home ,JESUS IS THE ANSWER ,he created all thing ,and so he knows how to handle all things when it seems malfunctioning ….let Christ be the foundation of your home I bet you , you cannot regret it …don’t be double minded , a double minded person is unstable in all his ways ( James 1;8)
So you need to develop a spiritual understanding about marriage, and discard the myths that surround marriages.
P- PATIENCE AND LOVE ;
Dear friends and immaculate house as a whole do you know that patience is very important , in this stage , that the other person is having a weakness does not mean that you can’t be there to help and build such a one , please understand that if God has given a go ahead on such you are expected to be patient and love such a one with perfect love , another side to this patience’s is that many are quick to demand what they will still have and get tired of having ….. guys …be patient … be patient … she will become all yours when you eventually get married to her , don’t destroy Gods plan and purpose for your life because you want it now …and then you talk her into the nonsense before marriage , have seen people that will say shebi we are getting married let do it…. No .. Bella’s wake up and reject such offers.. know that a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage . if he truly loves you let him wait , till that special night ……
E- ENCOURAGE THE BALANCES BETWEEN DEPENDENCE AND INDEPENDENCE;
In Life there are things we depend on people for and there are things we are independent about . you might depend on someone to cook for you but not for somebody to feed you , let me get more closer , you might depend on somebody to provide water for you but you can not depend on them to bathe you ,in all relationships and courtships , there are things we depend on each other for , but we must balances the dependence and independence to avoid error .
You can depend on a man to assist your spiritual growth but you cant depend on him to determine your spiritual state , you can depend on a woman to assist your ministry but you cannot depend on her to give you direction on how to run the vision because that is Gods work as the Giver of the vision .many have made a ship and air crash of their lives because they lack the ability to balances this .
Finally on this note to
3; THE MARRIED COUPLE
So this last view is specifically for our mum and dad, hurray … so I ll still be making use of this Acronyms R.A.P.E. the first is
R- RESPECT IN RELATIONSHIP ;
respect is key between married fellows , it has a long way to determine what set of children you have as offspring’s..Never ever beat your wife neither scold her with words , not even before your kids , you are passing the wrong oncept to an innocent generation , even if there are any differences , go to your room and talk about it ,or yet on a lighter note , visit an eatery or relaxation center to rob minds together , and while you are sucking each others lips express your mind about that issues and let it die once and for all , then comeback to you loving home and make it better for than just a house …..
A- APPRECIATION IN RELATIONSHIP ;
Some people don’t know how to appreciate their wives , some wives kneels cant touch the floor again since the weeding got over , some cant pound yam again like brother Abayomi in the train ,since now that sis Gloria is now in their abode …..hmmmm you better change …..so learn to appreciate your spouse ..tts a way to ignite and keep the strength of love flowing …..
P- PROTECTION IN RELATIONSHIP;
one core reason for marriage is PROTECTION, in all cases it may not be visible but play your role to protect your wife and children ,also the wife has the obligation not to sell out the man by unnecessarily shearing information you may be speaking to an enemy… protect your husband …….
E- EXPRESSION OF LOVE IN RELATIONSHIP;
Well, it’s good to do this , and for real we know what this may entails but beyond that , on a more realistic and extended family concept , know that you did not just get married to your spouse alone , him or her has a family which must also be considered during the period of courtship… Play your role in extending love …. I don’t me mean … erotic love ooooo… I mean Agape love …..Support according to your capacity …
Thanks so much for joining us on this edition of RELATIONSHIP AND HEALTH WEEKEND …. The balanced Christian edition 3.0 ( RAPE and R.A.P.E., WHAT IS GOD SAYING )
Thanks so much for reading .God bless you real good
IGO
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